a letter to my future self
I would like to tell you a little lesson about power.
To us power and the meaning of it has changed drastically throughout our life. If you ever feel like you don't have enough or find yourself in a down I urge you to read this.
When we entered the world all those years ago, one of the first things we linked to power was being rich. When people asked us what do you want to be when you grow up we simply responded with rich. Since no one ever talked us out of our believes as a kid we started measuring our power in possessions and wealth. A big car or house, the newest toys, they where all there if you had power.
As soon as we developed in our live we learned that power was also measured in leadership. We started admiring dictators not because of their cruel ways but because they had so much ''power'' they could outsmart all others and get away with anything.
Power in this meaning has made us feel weak and cry many times in our lives. We felt that we should be higher up the ladder telling people how it should be or make them admire us. Or we should have been richer and further in our lives. These believes have made us see dumps where there is beauty, weakness where there is authority and told us ''no we can't'' where we should have said ''yes we can''.
Luckily for us our understanding of power was not finished. As we reinvented ourself, got our health back to being our first priority and took a turn for the better we learned a valuable lesson.
Power is a long forgotten sense and feeling that is not expressible in ones status or wealth. Power is in that sense like joy, it can take over your soul and drive you through the day in warmth.
We have recently started a journey of adventure called entrepreneurship and it has felt more powerful than anything. We tried building a business before but our believes of why and how where wrong. This time we work with a clear vision, with passion and love. Our first day working in a business coffee place we worked in an immense speed on this project. We had purpose and with no distractions around we had laser-focus.
When we went back, instead of taking a tram we decided to walk back. This gave us a brief moment to reflect our feeling and progress. We realised we had hit a new definition of power yet again. The moment itself reflecting back to a year before it felt like we stepped into a Ferrari. We where engaged with the world, with ourself and our body. Who was this new man, this man that could do in 2 hours what would have normally cost him weeks, this man that looked good, had a powerful posture, determination and a feeling of fitness. We had no money in our pocket, no power over anyone but ourself, we were no manager or sport legend that we dreamed of. Yet our Ferrari was flooring it, we were engaged in writing, reading, working, thinking and putting out content.
A great surge of power came over us. We had found our new power, the drive of a Ferrari as I like to call these kinds of moments, the aura of full throttle and the understanding of what was important and is important.
To my future self, don't go down without a fight, power is not dominance, not having control over something and definitely not money. Power is being alive in the best way possible by being engaged with your inner self.
Be on the lookout for growth in your health, happiness and visions.
GO for power, REAL power!
One of my visions for 2019 is to see myself fit, healthy and skinny.
Last year I managed to lose 25 kilograms of weight with exercise and carb control. I learned that I wasn't just losing weight and getting in shape physically. Every aspect of me became stronger, calmer and more committed the more I pushed.
I sometimes get stuck in business, not knowing where to start or what to do and I'm okay with that. I'm okay with that because I know that if I put my laptop away and exercise by myself the tension in my body, mind and soul will leave.
People often forget that we come from a simpler time when strength was measured by fitness, this is still in our DNA and we need to calm the primate inside by giving it the basic pleasures.
Bashing at a boxing bag, running your lungs out or swimming with the strength of a whale might not seem so much fun to your evolved self but the monkey inside loves it.
Often reflecting what is bothering me helps me to continue on track with my goals and dreams. Do I physically need something or need to change something? What is going on inside my head? Or am I not comfortable with something that is going on in my life or business? These questions are necessary to improve the body, mind and soul.
How do you know if you physically need something? Well, the simplest thing to do is to look in the mirror. Me personally, I looked in the mirror in 2018 and used to think ''why am I so incredibly fat''? I gained so much weight in just 2 years of neglecting my body. These negative thoughts don't help much though so when I look in the mirror now I make sure I really look. Do I look tired, is there anything physically I would like to change about myself or is there anything else noticeably. Even if you eat junk food for a whole month you should be able to notice by looking in the mirror.
How do you find out what is going on inside your head? I find out by simply writing, I keep a diary close to me which I try to use frequently. You will learn that when you enter a quiet place with an empty page in front of you, words shall appear like magic. This will not only help you to identify what is going on but also helps to deal with stress, small issues but most of all helps you focus on what needs to be done after writing.
Knowing if you are comfortable in life or in business is one of the questions I always find a little more difficult to answer. There is always more comfort or more to gain in life. But I find that once my body and mind are in a good place, asking myself this question will often give the best result and sometimes result to big changes.
What does this have to do with a blog about fun? Everything! Since I have been focussing on the body, mind and soul I have been happier and so have the people around me. It helps me make an impact on peoples lives even more. Not only that but I am also more relaxed, make better decisions and know real fun when I see it because I'm more focused.
So I hope you will soon all be standing in front of the mirror, putting on your best running shoes, flashing through pages with the mighty pen and simply increasing your body, mind and soul so that we can all focus better on being fun people!
Before diving more into the subject of fun, I think it's good to make a clear distinction between when fun is good for you and when fun is going to hurt you or others.
I have made a clear distinction between the two as being ''Evil fun'' and ''Good fun''. Let's start with the first; evil fun could be described as all fun that is ultimately not fun for others, or even harmful to yourself or others.
Good fun can be described as fun that makes others smile, makes them feel better or makes them more successful as a result of your actions.
Even though this sounds simple we tend to make evil fun decisions more often then we realise. Ever went to a party where you though you where the biggest presence, a bit tipsy/drunk and had a blast? You most likely ended up hurting someone else's night at least a little bit. Even though this doesn't sound too bad, growing this awareness can help you in both business and life.
It will start with knowing how to adjust to a small group to make them smile and have a good time. Eventually though you will realise you can be aware of what goes on in an entire company and which actions to take to make Mikey from third floor who does the paper work have a fun filled day.
In my life I have heard my mom say think before you do about a million times. But I never realised how I should have interpreted it. My interpretation was always use your brain instead of living in the moment, and I loved living in the moment so the advice got thrown in the bin. I tend to get an impulse and I have a strong need to follow it.
I realise now that I don't need to make the choice, I can live in the moment and use my brain by asking myself the question; does this ''fun'' impulse affect others or myself in a bad way in the short term and/or the long term?
If the answer is yes then it is a bad decision, if the answer is no then it's a good decision and if the answer to you is unknown it is the absolute best decision.
Why is it the absolute best decision? Simple, the unknown is a challenge and means you face fears, get out of your shell and go on an adventure. If during this impulsive decision you are faced with new choices you are yet again faced with moments where you need to ask yourself exactly the same question. This will help you evolve, meet important people in your life and grasp the definition of fun in your life and others.
Follow the fun, but be sure to ask yourself questions along the way!